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I really think the way these guys treated me just has a lot to do with the stigma that's attached to being in a wheelchair because so many people look at you and they automatically assume certain things.
I thought that by trying to let people get to know me before they got to knew I was in a wheelchair was a good plan, because then they'd see that I'm normal, and I travel by myself and live by myself, but other people won't let you be defined by anything other than being in a wheelchair.
" And I wanted to say, "Of course I can, asshole." I seriously can't tell you how many Tinder guys asked me that as soon as I mentioned the wheelchair. " I seriously had to tell him, "I don't think it's going to be changing anytime soon." He just vanished and I was really bummed about it.
After that, a guy I was sexting with on Tinder for a few weeks replied to me casually telling him that I was in a wheelchair with, "Oh. All of that rejection based on being in a wheelchair really messes with your self-confidence.
You seem like there's something wrong." He just said, "I just don't know how to talk to someone in a wheelchair.
I just don't know what to do." And I said, "Well, I don't know what to tell you, because we've already been talking for two weeks, so the conversation shouldn't be any more difficult at this point," and then just asked for the check. At the end of the night, he told me, "Well, you're a very nice person," and I said, "Yeah, OK, good luck with everything," and started to leave.
And I don't think it's their fault, but I did see that there were more people than I realized who felt that way.
About a week after I got off Tinder, I reconnected with a guy I met a year ago at a restaurant who I was immediately drawn to at the time, and we later ended up going on a fantastic date and now we're kind of seeing where it goes.
Disability or not, finding a date, asking for a date, and actually going out on a date can be stressful.We'd been talking for about two weeks leading up to the date, mostly about our careers and where we were from, and I was intrigued by him because we're both from the same part of the country and it's a small town and that seemed interesting. Once he saw I was in a wheelchair, he immediately wouldn't look me in the eye for the rest of the night and we basically spent the whole date ignoring the elephant in the room.It was the most uncomfortable date I've ever been on and felt really forced, so toward the end of the night, I finally just brought it up and said, "Are you OK?After that date, I was very upset by how ignorant he was but also upset with myself, because I felt like I should have been more forthcoming and told him earlier in the conversation that I was in a wheelchair.I didn't go on another date for six months or so because I'd started telling Tinder guys a few days into the conversation that I was in a wheelchair and they would disappear immediately.